A lot of this sobriety game is psychological
When you think of the billions spent by the liquor industry to brainwash us into believing that we need their product it’s little wonder some of us get hooked.
Not to mention the fact that alcohol is chemically designed to be addictive.
And then you have the fact that drinking alcohol has become so “normalised” that it makes it’s appearance at just about every event from a Christening to a Funeral.
It’s the lubricant that oils our social life, it’s the gasoline of fun!
Or is it?
How about we get a bit rebellious here and go against the grain, move out of our comfort zone and even defy social expectations a little.
I know I started to drink because I just wanted to “fit in”.
Yes it takes a fair amount of confidence and courage to socialise sober – and to dare to be different.
But it does get easier.
So maybe it’s time to rise above all that social conditioning.
After all we got wise about cigarettes – we now know they kill you and are not particularly cool or sexy.
Let’s get ahead of the game and see booze for what it really is – a poisonous trap.
Many of us spend a fortune on “beauty treatments” not to mention gym membership and organic food bills but the quickest and certainly the cheapest way to get your freshness back is to ditch the drink…
If you need convincing then just check out Nicola in the photos – Nicola came to one of our workshops and as a result she quit drinking – she took a photo before she stopped and then again after just a few weeks of not drinking – they say a picture speaks a thousand words so I will say no more..
I will just post a quick listicle of how drinking impacts your looks…
- Tired eyes – evening drinking affects your sleep – it cuts REM cycles from 5 or 7 to just 1 or 2 so you wake up feeling tired
- Grey skin – alcohol is a diuretic and makes your kidneys pass more fluids. Skin needs moisture to stay healthy and will become dull
- Sagging – regular drinking can leave your skin missing the essential vitamins and minerals that help keep it elastic and smooth
- Red blotches – alcohol dilutes the small bood vessels in your skin which can result in red blotches
- It ages you – New York nutritionist Jairo Rodriguez always tells his patients “if you want to look older, then go ahead and drink!”
- Drinking leads to zinc deficiency which can lead to hairloss so those luscious locks may suffer as well as your face!
- We all want to be slim but did you know your body will not even think about burning any fat until its got rid of that deadly alcohol you drank?
We have more workshops coming up in September – make a booking and we will throw in a complimentary online support system called “Take a Break” which will get you through an alcohol free month – a great way to prepare for a workshop and find out how dependent you may have become.
If you don’t live in Cape Town or Joburg then just sign up for “Take a Break” – have an alcohol free month and get your sparkle back!
Just don’t forget to do that selfie at the beginning and end of your alcohol free month – send it to us and we will send you a WorldWithoutWine t-shirt.
This is my first blogpost for more than a year – not because I “fell off the wagon” but because I have been busy building my alcohol free life – and making it awesome.
I started blogging the day I stopped drinking and used it to track my first year of sobriety – first blogpost was May 2015 so if you want the whole story just click HERE
I hope this new post is reaching some of those kind people who encouraged me through those tough early months – would love to hear from you and anyone else who would like to leave a comment!
One of the best things about sobriety has been the opportunity to help other people via the worldwithoutwine workshops – we run them in Cape Town and Joburg and more than a hundred people have attended – about a third of those people have stopped drinking completely, another third of them have cut down and the rest did not reply to our survey so I have concluded that they are still “in contemplation”.
Contemplation is actually a vital part of the change process – my decade of trying (and failing) to moderate was definitely “contemplation” before I finally accepted that I would have to stop drinking completely.
My biggest learning as I begin my third year of sobriety is that putting down that last alcoholic drink is just the beginning. If you don’t make some serious changes in your life then you end up trying to live your normal life with a big hole in it – where the booze used to be. I certainly went through that phase, feeling depressed – and stuck because I couldn’t even chase away the blues with wine. I used say that I felt as if I had lost more than I had gained – but now I feel the opposite. Now I know that you need to fill that big hole with stuff that’s going to lift you up, connect you with others and broaden your horizons.
I have learned so much about addiction since I got sober so am planning to share some of those learnings, as well as some personal insights, via a weekly blogpost – please follow me if you’d like to get notification when I post.
Never forget that the opposite of addiction is connection.
I leave you with a quote from Mary Karr:-
“When I got sober, I thought giving up was saying goodbye to all the fun and all the sparkle, and it turned out to be just the opposite”
That’s when the sparkle started for me”.